The most important and longest lasting relationship any human being will ever have on Earth is the one which they have with themselves. It begins the day we are born and lasts until the day we take our last breath. In that, it is often the only relationship that holds fast to the romantic ideal of true love, “until death do us part.” It makes sense that this is the one relationship we should devote most of our time, nurture, and resources to; and yet, all too often, it is the relationship we end up neglecting. We may treat our friends and colleagues with honor, truth, and respect, but often end up being dishonest and disrespectful to ourselves. This is unacceptable.
Be Honest With Yourself. We are autonomous. We know that we are the only ones truly responsible for our actions, well being, and happiness. Be honest in identifying your weak spots and get to work. Becoming strong in character; being mature and well-balanced physically, intellectually, spiritually, and emotionally are all up to us. We will spend the rest of our lives with this “I” person and we deserve the best.
Respect Yourself. Surrounding yourself with weak, lazy, and dis-empowered people will suck the life right out of you. These are the people that need to go. The dilemma hits us head-on when we find ourselves being weak, lazy, and dis-empowered. We must do whatever it takes to shed those feelings, thoughts, and behaviors that are disrespectful to our truest nature. Leave guilt, shame, and remorse in the past where it belongs and move forward with clarity of purpose and respect for your “I.”
Love Yourself. Loving and caring for yourself is of utmost importance because the only relationship constant you will ever face in your entire lifetime is you. Find your strengths and celebrate them. As human beings we all make mistakes. The key is to adapt and adjust in every situation in which we find ourselves falling short. Learn from every mistake and grow from past experience. In this we are growing, and growing matures us into better beings most worthy of love. Every day is a new opportunity to become a more beautiful, compassionate, truthful, effective version of you. And you are definitely a person worthy of love.
Please note: I work with women from all walks of life, including, but not limited to, heterosexual women, bisexual women, lesbian women, questioning women, and female of center womxn.