When Honesty is NOT the Best Policy

Of course, I always promote honest and open communication in every relationship, especially the one you have with your committed, loving partner. That said, you may be surprised to find me promoting the idea that honesty is not always the best policy when it comes to the bedroom, and I'll explain why. When Honesty IS … Continue reading When Honesty is NOT the Best Policy

5 Types of Intimacy Necessary to a Successful, Loving, Sexual Relationship

When clients come to me looking for a better sex life with their partner, one of the first questions I always ask is, “How is your intimacy together?” All too often we are quick to equate intimacy with sex, meaning penetrative sex itself. But, what is intimacy really?

What if You Stopped Praying that God Would “Fix” Your Husband? [a guest post by Arrettres Hollins]

Sometimes when we are going through things in our marriage, we are completely focused on what is wrong with our husband. We go to God with lengthy prayers about what he needs to do to fix our husband. We rehearse his flaws, what he has done wrong. Sometimes, we even give God a timeline and … Continue reading What if You Stopped Praying that God Would “Fix” Your Husband? [a guest post by Arrettres Hollins]

What Churches Get Wrong about Sex

God does not hate sex. Let me repeat that just so there isn't any confusion. God does not hate sex. You may be wondering why I am opening with this line. Well, I'll tell you why. Almost everything I learned from well-meaning Christian adults led me to believe that God hated sex. And not only that, … Continue reading What Churches Get Wrong about Sex

My Thoughts on Pornography [video]

As an adult sex and pleasure educator and relationship coach, I'm often asked about my thoughts on the adult entertainment industry. Well, in a sense, I work in the adult entertainment industry! Alas, Pornography - Are you Pro or Con? is the subject of my latest video. See if you can follow along as I … Continue reading My Thoughts on Pornography