5 Types of Intimacy Necessary to a Successful, Loving, Sexual Relationship

When clients come to me looking for a better sex life with their partner, one of the first questions I always ask is, “How is your intimacy together?” All too often we are quick to equate intimacy with sex, meaning penetrative sex itself. But, what is intimacy really?

What if You Stopped Praying that God Would “Fix” Your Husband? [a guest post by Arrettres Hollins]

Sometimes when we are going through things in our marriage, we are completely focused on what is wrong with our husband. We go to God with lengthy prayers about what he needs to do to fix our husband. We rehearse his flaws, what he has done wrong. Sometimes, we even give God a timeline and … Continue reading What if You Stopped Praying that God Would “Fix” Your Husband? [a guest post by Arrettres Hollins]

What Churches Get Wrong about Sex

God does not hate sex. Let me repeat that just so there isn't any confusion. God does not hate sex. You may be wondering why I am opening with this line. Well, I'll tell you why. Almost everything I learned from well-meaning Christian adults led me to believe that God hated sex. And not only that, … Continue reading What Churches Get Wrong about Sex

Gay Christianity is Not an Oxymoron [video series]

An oxymoron is a figure of speech in which two apparently contradictory terms appear together; for example, the expression "thundering silence" seems to contradict itself -- thunder being a loud sound and silence being the absence of sound. There are those who believe that, if you are a Christian, you cannot be gay (or lesbian, or … Continue reading Gay Christianity is Not an Oxymoron

In Honor of Pride Month: This Christian Ally’s Credo

Dear Friends, As you've likely figured out by now, I am a practicing (as in, "I'm workin' at it, y'all, and am by no means perfect at it yet") Christian. As someone who has professed for over forty years a deep and abiding love for God Our Creator, I believe that every single human life … Continue reading In Honor of Pride Month: This Christian Ally’s Credo

The Merry Month of May…sturbation

Traditional May Celebrations Traditionally, the month of May marks the return of springtime in the Northern Hemisphere. The first day of May, also known as May Day, is still celebrated in many parts of the globe. The ancient Celts called May Day “Beltane”—the day halfway between spring and summer as the time of fecundity and … Continue reading The Merry Month of May…sturbation

My Thoughts on Pornography [video]

As an adult sex and pleasure educator and relationship coach, I'm often asked about my thoughts on the adult entertainment industry. Well, in a sense, I work in the adult entertainment industry! Alas, Pornography - Are you Pro or Con? is the subject of my latest video. See if you can follow along as I … Continue reading My Thoughts on Pornography 

Supporting Adult Sex and Pleasure Education

Sex education in America sucks. And, not in a good way. Many women, rather than embracing and celebrating their feminine sexuality, are suffering with feelings of shame and disdain because of distressing religious judgment and crappity-crap cultural conditioning. These women are then expected to enter into long-lasting relationships and marriages and react as authentic sensual beings. Shyuh, … Continue reading Supporting Adult Sex and Pleasure Education